Guilt and dementia

I always find myself saying to people that guilt is a wasted emotion. It’s there to tell us not to do something again … to learn from our mistakes and to spare us from the dreaded heart-wrenching, fierce knot-in stomach feeling that can immobilise our whole bodies. 

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Being a Carer: The Positives!

What do those inspirational quotes say…if you don’t experience the negative, you can’t truly experience the positive…well something along those lines, and it really is true. We all go through challenges and upsets; life is like one giant maze that we’re constantly trying to navigate through. This means we can get lost along the way, experience the highs when we see the light but also the lows when there’s only darkness to be seen. And I feel that about caring for mum.

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Please stop staring at my mum when she has a tantrum!

What comes to mind when I use the word ‘tantrum’? Is it of a child stomping their feet because they want ice cream for breakfast and are being told to eat their porridge instead…or is it of a toddler in a supermarket who really wants that amazing, fun, best-thing-ever toy, which of course their life will not be the same without and is being told they cannot have it…OR is it of an adult who stands in a busy shopping centre desperately screeching and hitting their head because the shop they have visited does not sell the brand of washing powder that they use.
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